I am 21 years old, and i would say im not very experienced...I know this was most likely asked be4, but how do i know if i had an orgasm. Or is it one of those things if i did have one i would know? Im just asking because my friend said everyone is different...so an orgasm for one woman is mind blowing and for another woman its just ok or even painful. So im tried of being lost so any kinda reply would help my confusion.

Thank you

I'm pretty sure that for women - you'll know if you get one.

You will know...lol

Do you masturbate? If not, get comfy and get to groovin!

And "painful"? I have never in my life had a painful Orgasm!

Actually i do masturbate but i dont really enjoy it...i know im too old to say this but, it feels gross. I guess if i want to have an orgasm anytime soon i will have to get use to my body. Idk if its because i watch too much tv but i always thought it was the mans job to give me an orgasm, I never knew i had to work for it.

Never rely on a man to get you off...
I know there are plenty of men who are more than happy to do that for you but dear you really need to learn how. FOR YOURSELF.

Why do you find it gross? It is your body. Maybe, you need to dig deep inside to why you feel this way...

Well, i guess i think in a weird way. But im scared im going to mess something up down there... and idk touching my own body does not turn me on. But your right i need to dig deep and not worry about it so much stuff. Its just hard for me, i get depressed because i feel like im not normal. I have talked to girls younger than me and they have had one...i really dont know what im doing wrong. Should i try and find another women to help me out and show me how things are done?

I was about 15 the first time I had one and I remember exactly what I did and I hope that it helps! At the time, I did not even know what a clitoris was so do not worry if you don't know.

OK.

Step 1. Start rubbing around down there until you find the spot that makes your legs tremble or jerk.

Step 2. Rub THAT spot... hard and fast.. just go with it. If it feels like you can't take it anymore, that's good! Keep doing it!!

Step 3. Viola! Orgasm!

It may take a couple of minutes, and I know when I first started doing it, it made me feel like I had to pee, so I just laid down a towel. What a great time you will have! I know I did not want to leave my room that summer!

Once you have had a small orgasm, start working on expanding them. Some women can *** for a full minute or more. But even just 3-5 seconds of an orgasm will rock you!

Good luck!

And if you don't have any luck, get yourself a little $10 pocket rocket. Those will get you off so easy, but they're totally addictive.

Oh and you may want to wet your fingers.

I'm sorry for posting twice, but I just wanted to say that I don't think anything is wrong with you. You just haven't put enough time in experimenting with yourself. That's all. You'd think that once you start having sex orgasms will come naturally, and maybe they do for some women, but for most it's just not that way. You have to learn how to get to that point before a man will be able to get you to that point -- in a timely manner .

Pour yourself some wine and spend a couple of hours getting to know your body. Watching some erotic videos helps me tremendously! I get so aroused/wet that I can orgasm very quickly with just my fingers.

Do you get wet?

I don't know you, but I want you to orgasm! When I first started getting off (and this was about 13 yrs ago) I remember thinking, "This is FREE and I can do it MYSELF.. ANYTIME." Haha. It's something no one should live without!

Let me know how it goes! And feel free to PM me also!

Trust me you will not mess anything up in that area...I think you are completely normal, you just need to relax and take the time to enjoy your body. I suggest getting some lub and start rubbing your clit. Do not tink about anything else but the pleasure it brings, pop in a erotica video if needed.

Goodluck and PM if you need to as well! You got to do this girl...i am rooting for ya!

Thank you both soo much, Im going to do what you have both told me and i will pm you guys with the result. I hope its a good one. Thank you again! <3

Well I'm a couple years younger than you and I've only had one orgasm. I've only been having sex for 2 years but couldn't wait to have one. I will tell you it was amazing and since then I haven't had another. Ive always thought that all orgasms were a great feeling and not painful in anyway. You will definately know when you have an orgasm. Before I had one my partner always asked me if I had and I ignored that question because I didn't know and didn't want to seem stupid. But you'll know. You can also tell when you might have one. Your leg will shake and tremble and or you might feel to your max like you can't go on during sex. But hold on it'll be worth it. It should feel like a rush of liquid from your vagina. It's great really.

In my opinion, I think that most woman can have two different types of orgasms.

1. Clitoral - these are my most intense orgasms. Whenever I masterbate, I still to just rubbing my cl** because it is the quickest and most intense! These are amazing! You usually feel these begin right in the pit of your stomach and it just waves across your whole body! Try it!!!

2. G-spot - these still feel really good but I don't get that whole body feeling. For most women, sex still feels good, with or without reaching an orgasm. I think this is because most of the time, just hitting the g-spot here and there feels great!

The best of course is when you get to have both at the same time! Have your BF do oral/hands on your cli** and then put a finger or two inside with a "come here" motion!


Good luck and go try it!!!

painful?
nahhhh.
when you have one you will defitnetly know youve had one.
everyone is different but when you do have one you will know what it iss.