I was wondering if anyone could help me out. My wife and I had anal sex about a year ago and I slipped into her vagina. what can I say everything was really wet. She was loving anal and I was too. However the slip costed me and her sex. She has since been complaining about having sex with me because it hurts. She was told by the OBGYN that she had a bacteria and a yeast infection. She has since rid both of those but still complains about sex. and the OBGYN hasn't been of much help. She said it hurts when I penetrate her. I don't even enjoy sex myself because I can see that she doesn't (because she cringes and looks like she's in pain) and I want her to enjoy it like we used to. Before the "slip" we were having sex at least 1-2 times a day. Even on her period we would manage to have sex 1-2 times total during her period. Now we have had sex 7 times in 12 months. I'm going to go insane. Anyone with thoughts please help. Thanks a man in need.

I bet she is thinking to much about the slip....maybe she is afraid that it will happen again...? I do know that "slips" sometimes hurt, so maybe she is just holding on to that???

Or something else is going on with your wife. Do you think she would be unfaithful? Do you think something has happened to her that you do not know about?

I am sorry, I hope you and your wife are able to enjoy sex again.

No i don't think she's cheating on me because we are always together outside of work and we even work for the same company but on different floors so we see each other at work. There is nothing out of the ordinary and she even wants to have sex but it's just that when we actually try to it's painful. It even hurts her when I put my finger inside her rather than my wenis. But she even asks for stuff to be done to her it's just it is getting rather tiresome going through the same routine getting nowhere. I didn't know if there was some type of infection that she could have received from the "slip" that would have caused her to become sensitive in there. Or maybe she is just thinknig about it too much and she clinches her muscles because she thinks it's going to hurt. But then again she is aware of that. She has even told me that she thought she might be clinching and thats why it hurts and it didn't help for her to TRY to relax

It sounds like you are somehow connecting your single episode of anal sex with her vaginal issues. Don't. Yeast infections generally take about a week to clear up with no residual problems. If this has been happening for 12 months there is something else going on.

If it's physical, she might have a different doctor check her for uterine fibroids or a urinary tract infection. Both are very common and can cause pain during intercourse.

I know endometriosis can cause pain during sex. I know my boyfriend and I had a "Slip" once. It was very painful for me and it took about a month before I wasnt sore. I also know that I fake that I enjoy anal sex because I know he likes it. The first time we had anal sex I felt very dirty and like I had done something wrong. It was six months before I was willing to go there again. Maybe your wife is having some issues with your sexual exploration? I dont know, I am sorry and hope things get better.

Hey Manneed! Well, i just got done reading about you and your wife, and your anal sex "problem". I know that sucks because of the "lacking sex" emotions might make you feel guilty, forgotten and fustrated but I do have a suggestion. You and wife (if you guys have no problem with this) could perform oral sex. Hey! Its way painless, no pain at all if nothing goes wrong. You both can have sexual pleasure, you both still can reach organsim, have fun with it. As for anal sex if there is nothing wrong and you two still want to so it, thats your bussiness. But, we're females, be gentle and watch where you aim! Thank you! I hope i was able to help.

I don't know if this will help but if a couple has sex often...and it sounds like you were....then the sex slowed down...or stopped for awhile....it could be cystitis.
It's also called "Honeymoon Cystitis"....because couples who are just married have A LOT of sex. A females urethra is right there in front of the vagina...and when there is a lot of in and out... the urethra kinda adjusts to all of it...then when the sex slacks off
the urethra can get irritated very quickly when you do have sex again.
If your wife has seen her OB/GYN....did the Dr. do an ultrasound or CT scan?
If that Dr. did and didn't see anything..I would tell your wife to see a Uro Gynecologist.
If it is cystitis...the Uro Gyno should prescribe an antibiotic...your wife will only take one after sex (I know it sounds weird..but that is what they do).
There are women who have chronic yeast infections and chronic cystitis.
Tell your wife to eat yogurt..the plain or vanilla is the best... (NOT the frozen ice cream kind...)..and take acidophillus....to keep the yeast from taking over.
Make a note....during sex...NEVER EVER go from the anus to the vagina..
there is A TON of bacteria that will get into the vagina..that will sure enough send your wife to the Dr...then meds..all that...it's just not worth it.
You would be surprised if you knew how many couples are dealing with this.

That type of thing happened to me. My doc said that my mind was afraid that it would happen again so i would automatically tighten, which made sex hurt. It took almost 2 years to get over, and a lot of slow coaching through it. So- give her time and be gentle and slow. Help her relax and it should help. Also- use lube- that helps as well.

Have her go to another GYN and have them test her for PID.

This happened to me and it did get time to get over it but unless its medical it will pass!! Now just do like my husband did.
I came home one day to find that my house was completely clean. and there were rose pedels everywhere! He had filled the bathtub with warm water and bubbles. He put candles and rose pedels around the tub and in the tub. He took a sponge and washed me. When I was done taking my bath he had a cunfy robe ready. He took me into the room took my robe off and told me to lay on the bed.(Keep in mind that there was rose pedels and candles everywhere). He then gave me a really nice massage that helped to really relax me. He also put a lot of lubrication on himself(When I wasn't looking) He turned me around and started to kiss me all over. He then gave me oral. And when he came back up he slipped about an inch of his wenis into me. Working it very very slowly he began to penetrate deeper(but remember work every inch very very slowly) Now when you feel she is tightening up stop and kiss her body. Let her know how beautiful you think she is with your lips. When she loosens up again you begin to work it slowly. You are going to have to be very patient with her. Its like doing it with a virgin all over again. Eventually she will start to feel comfortable that you are in her and start to loosen up to the point that she'll ask you to go faster.
Now the advise Ive given you is only going to work if it is all in her head. It is very important that you set the mood. Put on some music. Sex is 80% in a womens head and 20% physical.
You might want to also promise her you'll never go anal again!
Good Luck!!!