My BF and I have an amazing sex life but he has a hard time actually ejaculating. We have only been dating for 2 months and have sex probably about 5 times a week and he has only "finished" like 3 times. Once during intercourse and twice during a blow job. He is 34 and said he has had problems within the last few years with this but doesn't usually have a problem getting hard. He seems to tire during sex and just says he can't go anymore and we will stop. I feel like I am not doing something for him, even though he said that he loves to have sex with me, no matter if he "finishes" or not. We have talked about it, but I don't want to keep bringing it up to him in case it causes more anxiety or stress about it...I just want to help him. Anyone else have any thoughts and have experienced this before?

Hey I understand what your going through! I have amazing sex with my bf like eight times in a weekend... He is always ready to go and willing. And lasts forever there is no such thing as a quicky with him.... But he rarely cums...he is 31 and Im 25... And I cant help but think its me...And I really really want to help him out. And he says the same thing as your guy.....

There is not much out there about this... Except a theme that he is thinking to much on the performance end and that affects his performance to ***...

I just wanted to let you know that there are other people out there going through the same stuff...

Could he be stressed out or something?
Sometimes it's certain medications too.
My boyfriend is 34 and luckily he doesn't have this problem but if he did, I would ask him to see a doctor and get some tests done 31 and 34 is still young, they shouldn't be having issues with that yet..

My guy is stressed about life now. He is finishing up school and trying to find work and I know that really stresses him out. He said he would be willing to go to the DR once he has good insurance, otherwise it is to the VA which could take a while. I personally think that it is because he gets too tired to keep going so he stops, maybe I will have to try something to keep it going!

I guess the only thing to do now is to trust that it really is ok with him that he doesn't *** during sex.