My BF always accuses me of being messy. I have never expereinced this before, I feel that it is him.. not that it matters, ( I feel the wetter the better )But is there a "typical" amount a man or women should have?

Every man and woman is different there is no set amount of "messy" there should be... That said, my husband said something along those lines once, and I mentioned that it was him, and he denied it. It's probably a mixture of you both and it's nothing to be concerned about. If it really is something you are worried about, give your OB a call. They can probably explain it to you, and they know you better than anyone here. Good luck:)