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I am the lucky mother of 4 children and I have found that each child is very different in the discipline technique that work. My oldest is a total self-motivator, he is the type of child we wish we all had. He will discipline himself and make himself miserable if he thinks he has done something wrong. My second child is the same way but needs to control his temper sometimes. My hardest 2 happen to be my 2 daughters. My oldest daughter use to SCREAM like she was being beat if we told her no. Anytime anything happened the scream would come out. We finally got to the point that she was not allowed to cry with her mouth open. She could cry but her mouth had to be closed. Then we would walk away from her and let her realize we weren't giving in to her. I never cared when people stare at me as I walk away. She stopped the SCREAM fits a week later. They are looking for attention. She also pulled the "I don't want to hug" thing. I told her good I don't want a hug either and walked away. She cried and cried that she did want a hug. You have to take away the power that they have it is emotional blackmail. When they don't have the power anymore they don't pull the stunt anymore. And then my littlest one. She is quite the hand full! She loves to kick and cry. The trick with her is to point out all the people watching her throw a fit and ask if she thinks they are enjoying it. Also I tell her if she is going to cry she needs to be louder and show her how. This always makes her stop. She is 3 now and still trys to push her limits but she stops pretty quick as soon she sees me get ready to cry with her. Basically, don't let them have the control that tanturms allow and you will have better behaved children.