My boyfriend and I have tried to have sex a couple of times and he has no problem getting hard but once he puts on the condom he goes soft. He has said he didnt have to use a condom with his ex since she could not get pregnant. What can we do so he can keep his erection with a condom on.

You know I have the same problem. My wife and I had started having sex when we first got together using a condom. Then we gradually went to not using a condom during sex because she's been on birth control. Well she's going off of birth control so we started to go back to using a condom. It sucks for us guys because the feeling is totally different or should I say lack there of. It could be one of two reasons, it could be too tight of a condom and cutting off his circulation or it could be the problem that I have where I start to not think about sex during sex. I think about how I can't feel a whole lot and how I wish there was just no condom at all so it doesn't exactly keep us going. It's solely a mental thing. It has worked for me, I honestly just keep my mind on sex. He might have to think of something he really enjoys even if the scenario he thinks is not the sex that you're having at the time if that makes sense. It might have to be one of his fantasies in his mind or something. So that he stays excited and erect. He'll have to do this until he gets passed the whole part where he's not thinking about sex during sex. Or there could be other things that you could try. Ask him what he needs from you to make him/keep him really excited. I know I love it when my wife makes sounds and talks dirty so you could also try that. Just try to be creative because the reason he's not staying erect is his mind is elsewhere.....so keep his mind there! Goodluck!

Thanks alot for your advice. Someone else that he knows suggested the condom being too tight and that he should try the magnums but truthfully i dont think he is big enough for them. If it is a circulation problem is there a way to stretch the condom in case he is just a bit too small to use a magnum.

I will try doing things that keep him excited. I hope it works. Thanks again.

Anyone else have any suggestions.

I don't think I would try to stretch the condom in anyway. I would just buy a bunch of single packs of condoms and try a lot of different ones until he finds one that he likes and allows him to be able to perform. Maybe something like the Ultra Thin where it doesn't have a lot of pressure of the wenis or something like that. I wear Magnums and they're pretty thick. I don't like them but they're the only thing that will fit me without it actually hurting. If it doesn't really "hurt" him then I would say it's not a circulation problem. He would feel a good amount of pressure if it was condom related. I would be 90% sure it's mental.

Ok if your not wearing a condom jus for the simple fact of getting prego be smart would u rather get prego or have aids for the rest of your lyfe keep trying with the condom and wht seems to work with him staying hard play with it a little bit.... he will get hard!

try using a flavored condom so it tastes good and then with it on give him a little oral that will stiffen his C**K up a bit!