Tori Dear,

I am so hoping that your heart doesn't get broken by your mom again. I am keeping you in my heart and prayers. Grandmothers are so important to children...my grandbabies are my life! I just hope she has yours and your babies best interest at heart.

Angelia

She didn't show up and you can read the actual story which makes sense on this link: http://imnotobsessed.com/2009/06/09/candy-...-spellings-show

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It seems like it is more of the same. If Candy would have went before the party they would have filmed it. Of course that would have been huge ratings for the show. They both say they want to meet privately and Tori invites her to a birthday party that is going to be filmed for her show??? It would have been a spectacle, everyone would have been focused on Tori and Candy and not little Stella. A child's birthday should be fun , not dramatic. They need a private meeting..

I agree with Shawn, this reunion should be in private. If both really want to reunite like they say, it shouldn't be difficult to set up a few hours without the camaras rolling. I think Tori might be a little scared of what MaMa Candy might say to her. I think both Candy and Tori are dragging their feet on this reunion. It is just insanity that one of them wouldn't just pick the high road and get on with it. Those babies will be grown before you know it and they will have missed an opportunity to rectify the situation and later down the road we will be reading how they both screwed up Lil Liam and Stella's lives with their childish behavior.

I think Tori wants something her mother can not give her...someone that puts her child first..that is the true mark of a mother. I am a mother of nine children and have not let my mother near my children because of the same interaction I have had with my own mother.My mother only loves herslf first and when I finally got that and accepted that it was alright to go on without her acceptence of my life with my children...You see My mother had given birth to two children with downs syndrome and she was happy that they had past away....They were not perfect so not accepted....My 9th child has down syndrome and I have also 2 other sons with autisum and my life is so full with the love that I never got from her that I am greatful for every day I have with them. I went and looked at your Tori's mother's web sight and this is just my opinion...Look at the pictures she shows of her grandchildren....their not in her arms...the dog is not Liam...Think about it Tori the picture says a million worlds...Just accept that your mother did not know how to be a mother and just accept that she is the most important thing in her life, you are better than that you are made different..you were made of both your parents and you have the great sight of loving your family first. I am old enough to be you mother because my girls are 36 years old . Your acceptence of who she is and that you are different people will help make the pain go away.
She can only love the grand children the same way she loved you because that is all she knows, give yourself a little time with her if you really need to but you are starting a new generation of your family line so make it count. YOU can not change people at my age 50, you can only learn that is not what you want for your relationship with your children and just be happy that God gave you such a great family to change the future and accept the past.I hope an old mothers advice helps ...

I wouldn't want my "reunion" with my estranged child filmed for a cheap reality show either. Even if Tori "promised" that she wouldn't be on camera, it was a staged event for the show. Surely Tori could have had a private party for friends and family at their REAL home and invited her mother, not the home they use for the show to fool the fans.

No, doesn't sound sincere to me. Yeah right, the camera crew won't film you. Candy most likely wouldn't have signed a release, but how would it look for her face to be blurred out.

Ratings, ratings, ratings. Shameless, Tori & Dean.

And mother of special angels, while your situation is very sad, don't project your mother's behavior on Tori's. I don't think the situations are remotely similar.

Unfortunately Her big heart has been broken. Her so called mother emailed and said she would not be at Stella party. Check out TMZ. They are the only one that listens to that crazy woman Candy. A mothers love is conditional, not for TORI though. Candy is crazy. I would love to be a mom and grandmother to Tori and her kids. I could only offer her family love. I would do it on TV and off. I love my son with my whole heart. Candy just wants the spotlight on her own time. She is a jealous woman, and has a cold heart. Everything about Candy has strings attached. Tori my friend you are in my thoughts.

I was saddened when I read the e-mail Candy wrote for TMZ to post about getting to meet her granddaughter at Stella's 1st birthday party. After everything you (Tori) has said about how sad you are that you don't have a relationship with your mom and your kids don't have a relationship with their grandmother for Candy to send that e-mail was unbelivable! Of all people your mom should be supporting you and your children not posting hurtful emails! Candy should realize how hurt you have been because you don't have a relationship with her and all you were doing was offering an olive branch which Candy threw in the trash. Mother's should be the one person in the entire world that loves you no matter what! I lost my mom 5 yrs ago and still cry every day because I miss her so much. I thought how wonderful that you and your mom will finally have a relationship but Candy ruined it. Candy doesn't deserve to be a mother or grandmother. I never would have believed a mother/grandmother could be as cruel as she is to you. Tori you need to forget about her and be happy with your family. You are so lucky to have a wonderful husband, kids, and friends that love you for who you are and are so much more supportive then Candy would ever be. Candy will be all alone with no one in her life which is what she deserves. I am so sorry for the hurt Candy has caused you, but in time that hurt will heal and you will have known you did your best and tried that's all anyone can do! Your mother made her choice. Now you know and need to move on because you have your own family that loves you and depends on you. Take care! There are alot of fans out here that love your show & your family. That will have to be enough. Candy doesn't deserve your tears!

Tori's playing it up for the cameras. It's shameful she sent an E-MAIL to invite her mother to a birthday party being staged for her show.

karen what did your bosses say

I'm making the assumption from the preview of the episode that Tori had Guncle Hand Delivery with a personal invitation. It's time to give up on the egocentric Candy now. I didn't have a mother that could love, and was jealous, actually sabotaged me and made my father hate me. So, I found the love and dedication elsewhere, a Grandmother and Grandfather whose rivers ran deep. Tori will find a replacement for Candy. It is Candy's loss, old age is knocking at her door and no one will be there to nurture her when she becomes dependent on others. Oh yea, the money will be there, but that is a weak substitute for love.

Tori, I just want to let you know that you should ignore all the haters that say you are using the situation between your mother and yourself for publicity. I for one appreciate the heartache that you share with your viewers over this subject, not everyone has a good family and everyone should be aware that there are evil people in this world.I have a step daughter that I have raised since she was 8 and her mother just didnt want her. They speak occasionally but it usually turns out real bad.Her mother doesnt even know her grandaughter. I have raised the baby for 3 years now as history reapeated itself and my step daughter doesnt want her own child. The damage was already done before I came into the picture. I know you will never ever let Stella or Liam feel abandoned as your mother did to you. Embrace all the friends that you have fully and it will ease the pain, but it will never erase it. I have no sympothy what so ever for your mother as she is the coldest person ever I believe. for her not to want her daughter and grandchildren in her life is wrong. But it is and always will be her loss. Let your husbands advice carry you threw. I wish you all the very best. My 4 teenagers and I enjoy your show very much and we watch every week as a family. I think teaching others about true life problems are the best shows around and yours is my favorite.

Hello to Tori and Dean,

I am a Canadian (from Victoria BC) who now lives in Nassau, The Bahamas and I enjoy your show very, very much. I admire you both for being being brave enough to "invite the world" into your lives, which I'm sure is not easy at times.

I too have missed out on the "mother and daughter bond". As my mother's only daughter, and I am now 55, I have spent far too many years seeking her love. The problem (as I see it and feel it) lies with her and it makes me very sad that she does not have what it takes "to be a mother". I feel for you. There are many women like us out there in this big, beautiful world who have a mother who just "didn't have it" for their children.

My mother is vain, proud, haughty, attractive, narcisstic and a gold-digger. She and I have little in common. She has about much substance as a garden rake. My mother competed with me for years, when she could have been my best friend and confidant.

I admire your husband Dean very much. When he states "it's my job to protect you and our family", I believe him. Let him protect you from your mother's "ways" and trust him to guide you. I wish I would have a man in my life who understood how toxic my mother was to me.

Stay strong and find another woman to call "mum" and share your life with. And that of your husband and children.

Dear Tori and Dean,
My partner and I were in Florida for a few weeks for me to do some research etc and we loved your programme so much. Of course we got totally involved and really felt for you when you were upset, I just wanted to rush over and hug you. It made me sad seeing the upset with your mother because I am a mother and absolutely love my children [ grown up now ] , I have also adopted in theory over a hundred Mumbai Street and railway children and care for thousands of others when I hold street clinics in and around where Slumdog Millionaire was filmed because I am the only mummy they know. I cannot understand a mother not being her daughters best friend and feeling so proud that her heart could almost burst, as for your absolutely scrumptious children how can she not want to be with them, they are so precious.
You are an adorable little family Tori and your children are truly loved which is a fabulous way for them to grow up, they will in turn love their children because love provides great strength. With Dean there to love and care for you I hope that you have the energy to cope with how you are feeling inside. When you have a somewhat 'iffy' day remember how many people all over the world love you and wish you every happiness. Take care, keep well,
love and hugs to all of you from England xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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