Oxygen Boards > Note to Tori : Please stop using your mom for storylines

KariAna

Aug 17 2009, 01:44 AM

So what? Yes, she did choose to have a show

one television. This does not negate what I have

said before. The very last episode of this season

Tori told Dean that she was going to stop talking

about her Mother and answer her email privately.

I have trouble believe some people even watch

the show because it is as if those who have taken

Candy's side didn't see it. Tori isn't perfect. She

never said she was perfect. Tori has made comments

about her Mother on her show. The thing is, if those

comments are more than just comments please explain

to me why Tori Spelling didn't do several episodes of

Tori crying and trying to get people's sympathy for the

things Candy Spelling said about how Aaron Spelling

died because of Tori's neglect? If all Tori wanted was

to use her Mother to get headlines why did she ignore

those accusations as well as so many more made by

Candy. Tori hasn't gone for the juggler the way Candy

has. Also, many of the things Tori has said about her Mother

are wonderful memories, like how her Mom used to hide

sea shells in the sand at the beach and then bring Tori and

Randy to find them, how much she loves continuing the

tradition of big special birthdays for the kids. Not all of

the things Tori has spoken about have been negative. I

have not heard one word from Candy Spelling praising

Tori for anything. Wait, she says she loves her Grandchildren

which is something good Tori has done but she has never said

it that way. All Candy does is make rude accusations to the media

instead of sending private email to Tori. No matter how old your kids

get it is the Mother who is supposed to love the child with unconditional

love. The bond with the child is also something that should have been

a bond created with the Mother. Tori's Mother left her Nanny to do

most of the work of raising Tori. The thing is, Tori is stressing about

her Mom because the bond does exist despite the Nanny. Maybe

Candy should wake up and smell the coffee. Tori is willing to let her

see her Grand kids. All she has to do is swallow her pride and ask to

see the children. If one of my nieces invited me to one of birthday

parties for one of their kids my first thought would not be about

my hair or what I will wear. It would be, I wonder what he/she

wants for their birthday, and I hope I get some real one of one

quality time with them. Seeing the young children family members

is NOT ABOUT ME, IT IS ABOUT THEM. I am the adult and should

act accordingly.

Kari Ana

QUOTE (senior @ Aug 15 2009, 07:18 AM)

Here's the thing, though: Tori chose to air her life on tv (and we do only see fractious chosen elements of it, after all). Her mother didn't, until all the public pressure pushed her into saying something. Human lives should be lived with an element of privacy. I'm glad you have enjoyed all your great nieces and nephews. However, the pain when children use or turn on their parents has no comparison. Most choose unconditional love, until they are pushed to the brink, at which their own survival is at stake. In the end, we are all just human and should quit judging others, especially if we do not even know them.

Poem Girl

Aug 17 2009, 02:58 AM

QUOTE (senior @ Aug 14 2009, 04:45 PM)

Hey guys, I'm a senior and I watch and love Tori and Dean. I had issues with my mother, and both my daughters have issues with me. When we become adults, we CHANGE. We look at our parents as adults and sometimes don't like what we see. Most people work around it. They value having a family and do the best they can to put up with those in the family they don't particularly care for. I am probably older than Tori's mother. I can see that she loved her daughter and spoiled her rotten. She also had her eccentricities, for which she is now being punished. Bottom line, if my daughter used the "f" word on me such as Tori did on her mom (see her book), I wouldn't pay for her wedding either. Her mother is a human being and has a right to protect herself. Now, as to Tori, I think she has a lot going for her and should just shut up about her mother. Yes, we would all like to see some sort of reconciliation, but that should really be a private thing, shouldn't it? It's all just drama for the show ratings anyway, right?
P.S. Tori's little boy looks just like Tori's mom.

Great post!!

KariAna

Aug 17 2009, 05:22 PM

The announcements by Candy Spelling began before

this season even aired. Last April while plugging her

book Candy Spelling blamed Tori for the death of her

father. Tori made no comments about this attack. Of

course Tori's book was part of why Candy attacked Tori

the way she did. However, the book was not all negative

about Candy Spelling. Candy Spelling perceived every story

line about her in the book was negative. Tori told good and bad.

It is sad when someone perceives every comment is negative.

As well all know this open feud began according to Tori of course

when Tori was going to a dinner party hosted by her parents. The

actual happening can be found in Tori's book Story Telling. The event

that began the media's being pulled into this feud had to do with Tori

and Dean leaving their spouses and getting together. Not a great

moment for anyone. At least when they married they did it in private

which created the situation where the media was running the pictures

for the previous spouses to have to live through. From all I have seen

the public letters by Candy begin the escalation until Liam is born. Candy

had no problem seeing Liam, and sending presents. When Tori's book

came out Candy sort of withdrew and began volleying this and that through

the media once more. After Stella was born, no effort was made from Candy

to see Stella.

I only brought up my families so people will know I do have some

understanding of the effects of children. A child breaking with a

parent is horrible, so is when a Dad breaks with a child because he is

like Candy Spelling.

Bottom line, if you listen to Tori, and then listen to Candy you

will see a difference in what is said. Tori will give good and bad

bits about Candy. Candy says only negative bad stuff about Tori.

How can anyone not see this?

Kari Ana

QUOTE (senior @ Aug 15 2009, 07:18 AM)

Here's the thing, though: Tori chose to air her life on tv (and we do only see fractious chosen elements of it, after all). Her mother didn't, until all the public pressure pushed her into saying something. Human lives should be lived with an element of privacy. I'm glad you have enjoyed all your great nieces and nephews. However, the pain when children use or turn on their parents has no comparison. Most choose unconditional love, until they are pushed to the brink, at which their own survival is at stake. In the end, we are all just human and should quit judging others, especially if we do not even know them.

coreylee

Aug 18 2009, 04:55 PM

QUOTE (senior @ Aug 14 2009, 04:45 PM)

Hey guys, I'm a senior and I watch and love Tori and Dean. I had issues with my mother, and both my daughters have issues with me. When we become adults, we CHANGE. We look at our parents as adults and sometimes don't like what we see. Most people work around it. They value having a family and do the best they can to put up with those in the family they don't particularly care for. I am probably older than Tori's mother. I can see that she loved her daughter and spoiled her rotten. She also had her eccentricities, for which she is now being punished. Bottom line, if my daughter used the "f" word on me such as Tori did on her mom (see her book), I wouldn't pay for her wedding either. Her mother is a human being and has a right to protect herself. Now, as to Tori, I think she has a lot going for her and should just shut up about her mother. Yes, we would all like to see some sort of reconciliation, but that should really be a private thing, shouldn't it? It's all just drama for the show ratings anyway, right?
P.S. Tori's little boy looks just like Tori's mom.

Hi Senior,
By the looks of it Tori has got the message , because today I am reading that she is going to mend the relationship with her mom .. she says it was just distance and the media that created the problem between her and her mom .. ( Go figure.. )
I for one am elated ......

KariAna

Aug 21 2009, 04:07 PM

Tori had already decided in the last episode of this

season to go into a private room and privately reach

out to her Mother. We all saw it. At least people who

watched the show saw it.

Kari Ana

QUOTE (coreylee @ Aug 18 2009, 02:55 PM)

Hi Senior,
By the looks of it Tori has got the message , because today I am reading that she is going to mend the relationship with her mom .. she says it was just distance and the media that created the problem between her and her mom .. ( Go figure.. )
I for one am elated ......

AngelBoots

Aug 21 2009, 05:58 PM

It seems as if Candy does not like dean and the fact that she left her marriage and he left his and now they have children and she does not care for her or her actions. Does anyone know if she had a good relationship with her mother when she was married with her other husband? because if she had a good relationship than when she divorced him to get with dean and her relationship declined than maybe candy resents her for doing that to her first husband and wants no part of her new marriage and her kids because of it.