but it takes a real person, loving, warm, caring and kind to be a mother. I don't care what your children do to upset you, you NEVER abandon them. This is exactly what Candy has done. Who is she to say anything about Tori at all when she's proven time and time again what kind of mother she really is? She's horrible! Why would you RSVP, and then send an email at the last minute saying it's too awkward to come, and not even let them know ahead of time you had changed your mind? What is wrong with you? Maybe if you had reached out and grabbed what Tori was handing out to you, some of that awkwardness and tension would have been relieved! Then you tell TMZ she just wanted you there for her show? Are you kidding me? You disgust me. I really hope Tori finds the strength to let you go. You have hurt her time and time again, and no mother should ever do that to her child, no matter how old they are. I lost my mom in 2005 and my dad in 2006. They didn't even raise me, but they both apologized over and over for not being there for me. They were great grandparents to my kids while they were here and I would give anything to have them back. Candy, I hope for your sake you grow up and learn what being a real mother and grandmother is all about. Money and gifts damn sure aren't it. Time to learn from your mistakes. Tori, take it from someone who was hurt time and time again by my parents because they weren't there for so many years of my life, you HAVE to let her go. It's obvious she really doesn't care or she would make it a point to be there, no matter what. You have to dig down deep and find the strength to let her go. Maybe one day she will grow up enough to deserve to be in your life and earn your trust again, but right now isn't it. Please stop letting yourself get hurt over and over. You have a beautiful life you've made for yourself and you deserve better.