I think that the both of you are wonderful parents you show your children that no matter what there are close friends and family no matter Guncles(who love children who give love and are amazing) are amazing. You and your husband are thetrue blue family you both need each other no matter from what point. No matter if your mother is there patts is the soul of your part an you mother had you and you will always have that and all the memories no matter what they are. I wiah that i would be as sucsseful. I love children and would love alot more but i went thru pre-post partum an,adha( I wish that I would have found that out in school instead of rehab no I was not a junkie I drank an did xanex they said take when you have anxiety well at that point I had it that all the time. But me an my husband have been thru everything, an from what I see from your family you have faced alot. And that really makes an adult, and a good person, yes i lived a very good financial life compared to my husband but no matter what I will always have him an my extended fam no matter what, When we got married I drank an did all the usual drugs. You probably wont read but I think that makes me a stonger parent no matter what. You an your husband have great hearts, i wish me an my husband could meet you because we have alot of the asme morales. well you probably wont see this but you should have me an my husband on the show because we could have a great time an were not hoosiers.haha You should put that on line have people register,haha you would think that is crazy but I suggested so i should be the first. Well the best of luck in all of your adventures, you have just begun, you will have more kids you both have a lot to spread. Jennifer Kite-Cason

Hey Tori,
I wanted to tell you that I understand you when you say "But it's my mom". I have severed all ties with my mother over a year ago and it wasn’t easy. I have never really had a loving relationship with her because she was an awful mother. She abused me and my siblings and said the most horrifying things. We became her personal slaves. I longed to have a mother/daughter relationship with her. For years I had a "phone relationship" with my mother. I would pretend she was this beautiful person who lived in another state. When I was 20 I had my first child. A little girl; when I gave birth to her all of those horrible memories came flooding back, being thrown down the stairs, being forced to eat my own vomit. At that moment; I realized I hated my own mother. What my mother did was extremely wrong. I didn't want her anywhere near my child. I saw a therapist which helped tremendously. She gave me the courage to ask my mother "why" Why did you hurt us? Why did you want to have children? Why are you the way you are? I was never satisfied with her answer. I kept my distance from her. When I had my son back in 2007 I decided I would slowly start fading away from my mother. Now I can say I am so much happier without her in my life. I don't want her anywhere near my children. My son is almost 2 and my mother has never seen him and it's so sad, but it makes sense to me. For years I struggled with but it’s my mom. I need her, why doesn't she need me, why doesn't she love me, why did she beat me... Don't keep torturing yourself. Focus on your beautiful family. Be the mother that you always wanted and that is so rewarding. I may not be able to give my daughter the huge house she wants with a horse. But I can give her a loving relationship. I can surround her with people who love her. Tori you’re surrounded by people who love you and your children. They are your family. Get rid of all of the negative people in your life and just be happy. You’re a beautiful person inside and out. And I wish we lived closer so I can give you a big hug and tell you everything will be okay. I truly hope you are able to read this and it gives you some peace knowing you are not the only one out there with an awful mother. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I know how difficult it is. I wish you lots of luck with this; you are a strong woman I know you can get through this. Be the greatest mother you can be, that my friend is the best revenge of all.
Sending you lots of **hugs-love –luck**